This means creating a dedicated place for family and friends to connect and remember your loved one.
A Consistent Place of Healing
In our modern society, people aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of work, even the simple emotional need to ‘be busy,’ often bring the bereaved back into the ‘real’ world far too soon.
Also, many families are choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one in a favorite place; the ocean, or even in the skies above. While that may seem fitting at the time, it means that you do not have a consistent place to connect with the memories of the person you loved so dearly.
Having such permanent place - in a cemetery, mausoleum, or cremation garden - that can be visited regularly by family and friends is an essential part of the time following a death. It becomes a focal point of memorialization, and gives everyone a special place to go to remember your loved one, or to commemorate important occasions. It can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful.
A permanent place to reflect on your loved one becomes a way of connecting to a family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents may provide children with an anchor to their personal history. It is a connection to the past, to love shared. It truly honors the relationship you still have – and will always have – with that person.
Unique Ideas for a Permanent Memorial
Many people are looking for ways to memorialize their loved ones in a permanent way. It can be difficult to find the right way because there are so many options. We will explore some of the more unique ideas that you may not have thought of before. This includes things like planting trees, creating benches, and building monuments.
There has been a considerable growth in the number of families that keep the cremated ashes of a loved one in their homes in several parts of the United States. While this isn't necessarily a bad thing, it could lead to problems in the future. Cremated remains are unfortunately seldom misplaced, unintentionally knocked over and spilled, or even found in the trash or unknowingly donated to thrift stores.
With that said, here are some of the unique ideas for a permanent memorial.
Make a Memorial Bench
A memorial bench is a great way to remember your loved one. You can place it in a park, near the home where they lived, or even in their favorite spot. The bench can be engraved with the person's name and a brief message. You can even install the bench in the cemetery near your loved one's gravesite.
Plant a Tree
Planting a memorial tree is another wonderful way to honor your loved one's memory. You can plant the tree in your loved one's favorite park, near their home, or even at a cemetery if they are buried there. You can also do a tree planting event in their name.
Create Artwork to Hang on Walls
You could also consider creating artwork for the walls of your memorial room. For example, you might make an abstract piece with shapes and colors that remind you of your loved one. Or you could choose a picture or poem to hang on the wall.
Build a Garden
A garden can be a beautiful and lasting memorial for your loved one. You can plant flowers, trees, or even vegetables in the garden. If you have some gardening skills, you might want to take on this project yourself. You can also grow flowers that your loved one really liked.
Create a Scrapbook
A scrapbook is a great way to memorialize your loved one. You can include pictures, poems, and mementos in the book. This would be a wonderful project for friends and family members to work on together.
Host a Fundraiser
If you want to do something more than just remember your loved one, hosting a fundraiser is a good way to go. You can ask your friends and family to donate money in honor of your loved one. Then, you can use the money to create a permanent memorial or fund a charity in your loved one's name.
Create a Memorial Website
If you're not into crafting or gardening, you might want to consider creating a memorial website. There are many free website hosting services available online. Then, you can use the site to keep everyone updated on your loved one's life story and share memories with others who knew them.
Celebrate their Birthday
Holding a birthday party for your loved ones is another great way to honor their life. You can ask others who knew them best to share stories about what they remember most or bring photos of moments you both shared together. Even after death, if you celebrate their birthday every year, it will keep their memory alive.
Write a Book
If you're feeling especially creative, consider writing a book about your loved one's life. This can be a great way for future generations to learn about them and what made them so special. You could even self-publish the book if you'd like to share it with as many people as possible.
Get a Tattoo
Although tattoos are not for everyone, it is a permanent way to keep your loved one's memory with you always. You can choose something simple and understated or go all out with a large, intricate design. Either way, it will be a constant reminder of the love you shared.
Complete Their Bucket List
Your loved one may have had a bucket list of things they wanted to do before dying. It's time for you, the living, to complete it. Doing so will not only honor their memory but can be extremely cathartic as well.
Now that you have some ideas for your permanent memorial, it’s time to start talking to professionals at Ferguson-Lee Chapel of Thorne-George Family Funeral Home. We can help guide you through the process and offer advice on which of these options might work best for your situation. This way, you will be able to create something beautiful as a lasting tribute. Call us today at (812) 275-4433!